PART EIGHT

 

Does it really matter how children are raised, brought up per se?  Will their upbringing have any effect in their lifestyle later on?  Can parents basically neglect their children hoping they will turn out ok?  What does Father Yahweh have to say about raising children? Plenty!  There is good reason to follow a specific formula where child rearing is concerned.

 

 Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.  Proverbs 22:6

 

 Hear, Yisra'el: Yahweh is our Elohim; Yahweh is one:
 and you shall love Yahweh your Elohim with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your might.
 These words, which I command you this day, shall be on your heart;
 and
you shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise up.
 You shall bind them for a sign on your hand, and they shall be for symbols between your eyes.
 You shall write them on the door posts of your house, and on your gates.
  Deuteronomy 6:4-9

 

Children must be taught from their youth up. 

 

Research Shows Upbringing Affects Discipline Choices
22 May 2005

Parent's upbringing plays a large role in how they decide to discipline their own children, according to new research at Wake Forest University Baptist Medical Center. Results from a survey of 2,100 parents nationwide were presented today at the Pediatric Academic Society annual meeting in Washington, D.C.

Shari Barkin, M.D., a pediatrician at Wake Forest Baptist's Brenner Children's Hospital, and her colleagues completed research asking 2,100 parents across the country about their current discipline strategies and what influenced their choices for their preadolescent children in a survey. The results showed that 42 percent of parents used time-outs, 41 percent removed privileges, 13 percent used yelling and 9 percent used spanking to discipline their children.

In the survey, parents were also asked to report the type of discipline used most when they were children. The results included: removal of privileges (31 percent), yelling (22 percent), being sent to their room (19 percent), and spanking (17 percent). Time-outs were rarely used -- only five percent of the time.

The study results show that age of the child was important in the choice of discipline strategy. “Not surprisingly, parents reported using spanking and time-outs more in younger children and taking away privileges, yelling and restriction to their rooms for older children,” she said. The research also confirmed that how you were raised plays a big role in how you choose to discipline your own children.

“Interestingly, only 60 percent of parents felt their discipline strategies were effective, and that means pediatricians have an opportunity to talk with parents on this important issue,” she said. “Discipline is a vital part of good parenting; teaching children appropriate behaviors, limits, and consequences for their actions. This helps them maneuver their way through life."

The survey was conducted by the Pediatric Research in Office Settings (PROS) network and surveyed 2,100 parents with children ages two to 11 in 27 states, Canada and Puerto Rico.

Brenner Children's Hospital is part of Wake Forest University Baptist Medical Center.

About Wake Forest University Baptist Medical Center: Wake Forest Baptist is an academic health system comprised of North Carolina Baptist Hospital, Wake Forest University School of Medicine and Brenner Children's Hospital. It is licensed to operate 1,187 acute care, rehabilitation, psychiatry and long-term care beds and is consistently ranked as one of “America's Best Hospitals” by U.S. News & World Report. Brenner Children's was named one of the top children's hospitals in the nation by Child magazine.

Wake Forest University Baptist Medical Center
Medical Center Blvd.
Winston-Salem, NC 27157-1015
United States
http://www1.wfubmc.edu



Schmidt, Paul F. 1988. “Moral Values of Adolescents: Public Versus Christian Schools.” Journal of Psychology and Chr--tianity vol. 7, pp. 50-54.
Abstract: 118 students in public high school and 73 students in Chr--tian schools completed a true false test measuring 8 pairs of moral and immoral attitudes. Findings indicate that there were significant differences on a "total morality index" favoring the Chr--tian school students. Significant differences were obtained in 3 particular areas: Money, Body/Health, and Sexuality. Chr--tian school students were more inclined than public school students to be aware of and confess their minor character flaws, contradicting the view that Chr--tian students tend to present themselves in a socially desirable light. [Source: PI]

 

Should we discipline our children using the spanking method?  You will notice that only 9% employed this method of discipline with older children and 17% with the younger children.  Spanking took a back seat to other methods of discipline.

 

 

 Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; But the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.  Proverbs 22:15

 

 Don't withhold correction from a child. If you punish him with the rod, he will not die.
 Punish him with the rod, and save his soul from She'ol.
  Proverbs 23:13-14

 

Now, these passages will cause many to oppose discipline of this type.  The spanking with the rod would seem excessively severe.  Almighty Yahweh would not condone anything of excess where child discipline is concerned.  His methods will work if applied correctly.

If the child faces punishment for doing something considered evil, the discipline methods of Yahweh will serve as a deterrent.  Later in life the child (now grown) will remember, that doing evil will bring some form of punishment on themselves. 

 

  The rod of correction gives wisdom, but a child left to himself causes shame to his mother.  Proverbs 29:15

 

The application of discipline as a deterrent, would certainly deter or stop a lot of society's evils today.  If criminals faced the death penalty for first degree murder, it is likely they would first consider the ramifications of their evil act.   Liberals probably would argue for a time-out instead!

 

Parental guidance is paramount to children because of the stability they will need later in life.  Without proper guidance, children cannot make the correct decisions to pilot their life's course directives.  They will be without an anchor if proper parental instruction is lacking or the parents are remiss in their instruction.  The book of Proverbs supplies some very good guidance for children of any age.  And parents also can learn a lot by simply reading and applying it's lessons.

 

 

 The Proverbs of Solomon, son of David, king of Israel:


 To know wisdom and instruction; to discern the words of understanding;
 to receive instruction in prudence, justice, and judgment, and uprightness;
 to give sense to the simple, knowledge and discretion to the young man.
 The wise hears and increases learning, and the understanding ones gets wise counsel,
 to understand a proverb and an enigma; the words of the wise, and their acute sayings.
 The fear of Yahweh is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction.
 My son, hear your father's instruction, and do not forsake the law of your mother;
 for they shall be an ornament of grace to your head, and chains for your neck.
 My son, if sinners lure you, do not be willing.
 If they say, Walk with us, let us lie in wait for blood, let us secretly lurk for the innocent without cause,
 let us swallow them up alive as Sheol, and whole, as those who go down into the Pit,
 we shall find all precious goods, we shall fill our houses with plunder,
 cast in your lot among us, one purse shall be to all of us.
 My son, do not walk in the way with them! Hold back your foot from their path;
 for their feet run to evil and they haste to shed blood.
 For in vain the net is spread in the sight of every bird.
 And they lie in wait for their own blood; they lurk secretly for their own souls.
 So are the ways of everyone who gets unjust gain; it takes away its owner's soul.
 Proverbs 1:1-19

 

What can be learned from this passage will keep an innocent child from becoming a criminal.  The instruction to stay away from sinners is very good advice if followed.  Any crime when committed, (providing they get away with it) emboldens another crime to be committed, and so on, which can eventually lead to bloodshed.  Parents must take control of their children during their formative years.  Instructions must be provided to young children so they can navigate life's difficult pathways.  When someone gains a College education, they are given guides and rules of their selected occupation, whatever that might be.  This teaching will provide for them and their family a good honest living if followed.  The same can be said for giving children instruction. 

 

 Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.  Proverbs 22:6

 


 

 

 

Yours in Yahshua, Hawke

 

 

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