It's Hard To Be Humble
I have spread out my hands all the day unto a rebellious people, that walk in a way that is not good, after their own thoughts; a people that provoke me to my face continually, sacrificing in gardens, and burning incense upon bricks; that sit among the graves, and lodge in the secret places; that eat swine’s flesh, and broth of abominable things is in their vessels; that say, Stand by yourself, come not near to me, for I am holier than you. Isaiah 65:2-5
"I am perfect, faultless, any mistakes are the result of someone else making a mistake." "I know all the answers but no one listens!" There are those who know they are naturally superior to the rest of us "idiots." We would be better off if we could only see our failings and their obvious intelligence. Does this sound familiar?
These individuals truly believe themselves to be above the rest of us. Each believes that he should be the leader of leaders in any group or situation. They espouse themselves to be the "enlightened" one(s); if only we who are blind would follow them to the "light" they could lead us to the "truth(s)" others are hiding from us. Often these "enlightened" people were among those they now claim to be deceivers, but now we are to follow them to receive that which is justly our due (sounds like Absalom in 2 Samuel 15: 1 - 6 doesn't it?). Their goal: to gain a following by broadcasting seeds of discontent toward those in charge and showing how THEY would do things differently through their greater intellect, if only allowed to do so.
One thing is certain: these people have no shortage of self-esteem (nor do most prison inmates). By their supposed superiority these people are naturally self-absorbed, and feel put upon by the unappreciative (and inferior) masses. What is another word for being self-absorbed? Narcissistic. In spell-dictionary.com, narcissism is defined as the excessive (even erotic) admiration of oneself (person and/or body) characterized by the preoccupation of self, a lack of empathy for others, and being unconscious of deficits in one's own self-esteem. A synonym for narcissism is conceit. Other sites show the following characteristics: betrayal, belittling, lying, manipulation, verbal and emotional abuse, self-centered, no remorse for mistakes or misdeeds (indeed how can there be since such individuals see themselves as perfect?), high blaming behavior (never his fault), has a good persona in order to impress/exploit others (falsely appears to be concerned/caring/understanding), easily angered (even to the point of rage), people are means to his ends, control's a conversation to his gain (if trapped he will twist the conversation, change subjects, dominates the conversation [to the point of a monolog], becomes angry if all else fails), pathological lying, "control freak," uses situational ethics, holds grudges, has secret like activities, creates chaos for no reason, has a grandiose image of himself, does not see how they come across to others, controls other by breaking the spirit of people/sabotage/threats, compelled to convince others to follow him (and is often successful), hides his real self, has to be right (again he must be since he is perfect), no room for any discussion on anything (always right so your opinions cannot matter), hidden agenda, very good
at reading people, not interested in solving problems (chaos yields power), this person leaves you drained/worn out when you are around them. And the list goes on.
A possible result of an extreme case of narcissism is "Body Dimorphic Disorder" (BDD). This problem deals with the excessive preoccupation with a defect (real or imagined) of a particular body part. These people see their body as perfect EXCEPT for this one (or few) thing(s). Such preoccupation can lead to being dysfunctional in any, or all aspects of life. It is equally evident in the male as well as female population. Among the disorders that can accompany BDD are: major depression, avoidance, obsessive-compulsive disorder, delusional disorder, and gender identity problems.
Does any of this sound familiar? It might. There are unhappy individuals and organizations controlled by such individuals that fit most of these descriptions. Do you know of any that purport to have been so undervalued in their innate knowledge that they HAD to abandon their former association(s) in order to "escape?" What about being unable to acknowledge an incidence of being mistaken and instead of admission and correction accuse others of attacking them and their efforts? There are some who even give out veiled threats against those who, for good reason, expose their tactics and self-serving falsehoods. Could I go on? I could, but suffice it to say that such individuals and organizations exist only on negativity toward others and self-aggrandizement. Do they have anything new or of real value to put forth? No, only hatred toward those who know and expose them (or might), and an over inflated sense of their pseudo-importance.
Could there be more said about these individuals? Yes, unhappily society endorses a type of narcissistic attitude; a trip through any self-help/psychology section of a book store will reveal this. How a bout religion? Yes there too mainly in the Eastern philosophy religions and almost any cult you wish to look at. The problem is that although a HEALTHY love of one's self is a sign of sanity (Ephesians 5: 29 "for no man ever hated his own flesh; but nourishes and cherishes it...") even the Messiah would not call himself "good" ("And Yahshua said to him, Why do you call me good? No one is good save one, even Yahweh." Mark 10: 18). I would submit to you that, if any one thinks of themselves as perfect, they make themselves to be in the place of Elohim: therefore anti-Messiah. Any one that would stroke your ego into thinking that you are perfect would make you of the same spirit. Perfection is a goal that I have not attained, nor anyone that I have met. Yahweh willing it will be attained at the return of Messiah. "Not that I have already obtained, or am already made perfect: but I press on, if so be that I may lay hold on that for which I was laid hold on by the Messiah Yahshua." Philippians 3: 12.
Looking unto Yahshua the author and
finisher of our faith... Hebrews 12:2
What should you do if you find you are dealing with such an individual or organization? First, be cautious and evaluate the situation. The ultimate goal is to disassociate yourself from them, but beware. In some cases it could be dangerous to do so without help (some of the more militant extremist groups come to mind); in most cases you can just put them completely out of your life with a minimum of concern. Be advised: you are now one of "those" people as far as the egocentric person is concerned - so be it. What advantage is there in leaving them to themselves? Much, most of all they will not be able to drain you emotionally, financially, or monopolize your time anymore! You will be free to search and develop more wholesome relationships, and to search and find Truth.
Humbly Yours in Messiah,
Finnegan AKA The Mick
www.aafp.org/afp/991015ap/1738.html )American Family Physician Oct 15, 1999
"In Pursuit of Perfection: A Primary Care Physician's Guide to Body Dysmorphic Disorder" James R. Slaughter, M.D. & Ann M. Sun, M.D. University of Missouri Columbia
School of Medicine, Columbia, MO.
Webster's New World Dictionary of the American Language, College Edition
Perfect In Every Way!