Critics

It was brought to my attention recently, that certain individuals are criticizing our web site. Some of the criticism was positive and some was negative. One critic stated "...generally speaking Hawke's site is fabulous." Thank you for that! Prior to this statement, the thread that was talking about us, made statements without proof or facts. What makes someone critical? Why do many people criticize others, while they are in desperate conditions themselves? I do not believe these critics know what is involved with creating and maintaining a web site like truthonthenet.com. I really do not believe these critical individuals have anything to show for their lives here on earth. Where are their web sites? Where is the fruit of anything good in their lives? What have they done to improve the human condition? Have you tried to help your fellow man find the truth of Father Yahweh's word? Just what have you personally done that gives you any right to criticize?

We were taken to task over our purpose statement. What is wrong with wanting to show the difference between truth and error? The verbiage we used to describe our intentions was critiqued as to meaning! Revealing fact from fiction is not an impossibility as we see it. For instance: The name of the Heavenly Father is Yahweh! Truth/Fact or fiction? The Bible has the plan of Salvation revealed to the human race! Truth/Fact or fiction? There are false prophets/teachers! Truth/Fact or fiction?

Another criticism found us wanting in the purpose of exposing individuals/groups masquerading as truth personified. Yes! We do not like false individuals that exploit others for their own financial or personal gain. What could be wrong with having zeal to expose evil people that feed on the sheep of Yahweh? We call it a pet peeve! Perhaps we could have said in differently, but does it really matter how it was stated?

Another statement was spoken without knowledge concerning America. America has prophecies to fulfill concerning its longevity. Remember the prophecy in Genesis 49:22-26

Joseph is a fruitful bough,
A fruitful bough by a fountain;
His branches run over the wall.
The archers have sorely grieved him,
And shot at him, and persecuted him:
But his bow abode in strength,
And the arms of his hands were made strong,
By the hands of the Mighty One of Jacob,
(From thence is the shepherd, the stone of Israel),
Even by the Elohim of your father, who shall help thee,
And by the Almighty, who shall bless thee,
With blessings of heaven above,
Blessings of the deep that crouches beneath,
Blessings of the breasts, and of the womb.
The blessings of your father
Have prevailed above the blessings of my progenitors
Unto the utmost bound of the everlasting hills:
They shall be on the head of Joseph,
And on the crown of the head of him that was separate from his brethren.

Joseph is America today! America has a purpose to complete before anything drastic occurs. Perhaps you have not seen the prophecies concerning America being fulfilled before your eyes?

Why do people deem themselves as all knowing and capable of seeing the faults of everyone but themselves? Yahshua said in Matthew chapter 7:

"And why do you behold the mote that is in your brother’s eye, but consider not the beam that is in your own eye? Or how will you say to your brother, Let me cast out the mote out of your eye; and behold, the beam is in your own eye? You hypocrite, cast out first the beam out of your own eye; and then shall you see clearly to cast out the mote out of your brother’s eye." Matthew 7:3-5

Let's do a little evaluation of the critics shall we? Shall we see what makes them criticize?

Recently a team of Swiss scientists found compelling evidence that humans like to reprimand others. They conducted an experiment in which two men played a money-exchanging game. According to a press release: "If one player made a selfish choice instead of a mutually beneficial one, the other could penalize him. The majority of the players chose to impose the penalty even when it cost some of their own money. The researchers determined that deciding to impose this penalty activated a brain region, the dorsal striatum, involved in experiencing enjoyment or satisfaction."

So the very act of castigating someone gets your dorsal striatum all hopped up. Why? Maybe because the act of reprimanding not only upholds the laws and norms of civilization but implicitly elevates the reprimander. Life is a brutal and relentless competition. It's my genes against your genes. A defeat for you is as good as a victory for me.

This article or section should be merged with Personality
Personality psychology is a branch of psychology which studies personality and individual difference processes - that which makes us into a person. One emphasis in personality psychology is on trying to create a coherent picture of a person and all his or her major psychological processes. Another emphasis views personality psychology as the study of individual differences. These two views work together in practice. Personality psychologists are interested in a broad view of the individual's psychological processes. This often leads to an interest in the most visible individual differences among people.

In psychology, personality is a collection of emotion, thought, and behavior patterns unique to a person. There are several theoretical perspectives on personality in psychology, which involve different ideas about the relationship between personality and other psychological constructs, as well as different theories about the way personality develops.

Some parts of personality include personality traits. The most common models of traits incorporate four or five broad dimensions or factors. The least controversial dimension, observed as far back as the ancient Greeks, is:

extraversion vs. introversion (outgoing and physical-stimulation-oriented vs. quiet and physical-stimulation-averse)

The so-called five-factor models or Big Five models add the following four factors:

1. emotional stability (calm, unperturbable, optimistic vs. emotionally reactive, prone to negative emotions),
2. agreeableness (affable, friendly, conciliatory vs. aggressive, dominant, disagreeable),
3. conscientiousness (dutiful, planful, and orderly vs. spontaneous, flexible, and unreliable), and
4. openness (open to new ideas and change vs. traditional and staid).

The Big Five factors have the weight of a considerable amount of empirical research behind them.

Perhaps the following article will shed some light on those who always find it necessary to criticize.

Criticism: Any Fool Can Criticize, and Most Fools Do
By Chuck Gallozzi

The Harm We Do

Imagine stabbing a friend in a fit of anger. As the knife blade sinks into his chest, your friend gasps in astonishment. Bewildered, his face contorts in excruciating pain. Losing blood and succumbing to shock, he collapses. [Thankfully], someone called an ambulance, which soon arrives and rushes your friend to the hospital. Although he recovers, his chest is marred for life by an ugly scar.

It's hard to imagine you would do that, isn't it? And if you did, I am sure after realizing the harm you had done, you would never repeat such an act. Yet, many of us almost daily stab the ones we love. We use invisible knives that do not draw blood. The weapon of choice is CRITICISM. The harm we do is just as vile as that produced by a real knife.

Our criticism tears down others' self-esteem. They feel unloved and experience self-doubt. Before their wounds have time to heal, we stab them again and again in the same place. How can we be so cruel? Perhaps we are deceived because our weapon and the victim's wounds are invisible. Why are we so vicious? Because of our own insecurities. How can we improve?

The next time you feel like butchering someone with caustic words, pause for a moment, and in your imagination, make your knife visible. Once you realize the harm you are about to do, I'm sure you will stop.

Sometimes the harm we inflict is so subtle, we are unaware of it. An example is combining praise with the word "but." For example, Johnny says, "Look, Mom, I got an 'A' on my report card." Mom replies, "That's wonderful, Johnny, BUT you have a 'C' in math." The use of the word 'but' cancels the praise that preceded it. With this is mind, let's 'translate' the above conversation to see what we arrive at. Johnny: "Look, mom, I'm doing well at school." Mom: "No, you're not!"

Compare the possible outcomes of the conversation between Johnny and his mother. What would have happened if his mother had said, "That's wonderful, Johnny. I'm going to tell Daddy how clever you are. Keep up the good work." Wouldn't that have inspired Johnny to work harder on his math, earning more praise in the future? Instead, Johnny feels that his hard work is not appreciated because his mom said, "...BUT you have a 'C' in math." Not much incentive for Johnny to try harder, is there?

What to Do when Criticized

What should you do when you are the victim of criticism? Here are some tips.

1. Use the criticism as a learning experience. That is, REMEMBER THE PAIN you feel, and vow not to do the same to others.

2. REMEMBER THEY ARE USING INVISIBLE WEAPONS, so are unaware of the pain they are causing. Forgive them.

3. REMEMBER THEIR PAIN. What do I mean by that? Here's an explanation by someone who's used to receiving criticism, "When folks is mean, it ain't that they hate you personally. It's more likely because they are miserable about something in their inside. You got to remember how most of the time when they yell at you or get after you, it ain't you they are yelling at but something inside themselves you never even heard tell of, like some other person has been mean to them, or something they hoped for didn't come true, or they done something they are shamed even to think of, so they get mad at you just to keep their minds off it."

4. REMEMBER NOT EVERYONE IS EQUALLY ENLIGHTENED, or as John Wanamaker said, "I learned 30 years ago that it is foolish to scold. I have enough trouble overcoming my own limitations without fretting over the fact that Elohim has not seen fit to distribute evenly the gift of intelligence."

5. After being criticized, THANK THEM FOR THEIR ADVICE and promise to take it into consideration. By thanking them, you are disarming their antagonism and ending the conversation peacefully.

6. CONSIDER THE SOURCE. The person criticizing you may be incompetent, envious, or jealous. If so, after thanking them for their advice, just brush it off.

7. EVALUATE THE CRITICISM. Although the complaint is probably not objective, there still may be some truth to what they say. Try to use this as an opportunity to grow. Remember, you are imperfect and others may see your flaws more clearly. Learn from them whenever you can, but don't return the favor by criticizing others!

Final Thoughts

Here's a valuable point made by Judge Harold Medina, "Criticizing others is a dangerous thing, not so much because you may make mistakes about them, but because you may be revealing the truth about yourself." Also, Samuel Johnson said, "Elohim Himself, sir, does not propose to judge a man until his life is over. Why should you and I?" Finally, be patient with the faults of others; they have to be patient with yours.

Well! Did you find anything of interest in that article? I did! I highlighted some points for your express consideration! I always consider the source! What are your credentials might I ask? Do you have any degrees in the higher educational schools of learning, or are you just envious, incompetent? Perhaps; you are just plain jealous that you cannot do what others can?

Romans 14:10,12-13 “Why do you criticize and pass judgment on your brother? Or you, why do you look down upon or despise your brother? For we shall all stand before the judgment seat of Yahweh.
(12) And so each of us shall give an account of himself - give an answer in reference to judgment - to Yahweh.
(13) Then let us no more criticize and blame and pass judgment on one another, but rather decide and endeavor never to put a stumbling block or an obstacle or a hindrance in the way of a brother.” (The Amplified Bible)

The Merriam Webster Dictionary defines criticism as “an act of criticizing; to judge as a critic; to find fault; to blame or condemn.”

Among Yahshua’s warnings to us in scripture, there are none more somber or serious than His warning to not become a stumbling block to His followers. “...whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to sin, it would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck, and he were drowned in the depth of the sea” (Matt. 18:6).

There’s an old saying that “We tend to judge others by their actions, and we judge ourselves by our intentions.” The truth is, we cannot rightly judge anyone else, because we do not know the contents or intents of their heart. We should be content to judge only ourselves and seek to bring our own lives in alignment with Yahweh’s Word (1 Cor. 11:31).

Do you have a Critical Spirit?

By Dr. Dale A. Robbins

What Exactly is a Critical Spirit?

A “critical spirit,” is an obsessive attitude of criticism and fault-finding, which seeks to tear others down — not the same thing as what is sometimes called “constructive criticism.” The only criticism that is ever constructive is that which is expressed in love to “build up,” not to tear down — it is always expressed face-to-face, never behind their back.

The person with a critical spirit usually dwells on the negative, seeks for flaws rather than good. They’re a complainer, usually always upset, and generally have a problem or a complaint about something. They often have little control over their tongue, their temper, and have tendencies for gossip and slander, which Paul said were sins “worthy of death” (Rom. 1:29-32).

What Causes a Critical Spirit?

1. Always Negative - A bad attitude and a negative view of life. A person may have un-confessed sin in their life (Rom. 2:1), or may harbor an unforgiving spirit or bitterness toward someone who may have offended them (Heb. 12:15).

2. Insecurity - Criticism is often a subconscious means to “elevate one’s own self image.” By putting others down, they are inwardly trying to feel more important or that “they know more.” Jealousy toward the spiritual victories of others is often the cause of criticism and belittling comments. Popular ministers of the Evangel/Truth are often the target of such tactics.

3. Immaturity - Believers must always keep their focus upon Yahshua the Messiah and His Word, not man, who will often fail (Heb. 12:2). Sadly, when they begin to notice the flaws in their brethren, subconsciously, this becomes a threat to their own sense of victory. Criticism becomes a reaction of disappointment, because their expectations in others have been crushed.

4. An Unconverted Mind - Put-downs, making-fun-of, criticism, sarcasm are the world’s ways of reacting to the faults of people. Our thinking and attitude should be renewed by the Word of Yahweh, which teaches us to bear the infirmities of the weak, to show forth love, and show others compassion and encouragement (Rom. 12:2).

5. The Devil - We must be on guard that none of us would be used as a tool of the Devil to bring harassment or discouragement upon our brothers or sisters through continual criticism, as the Bible warns us not to “give place” to the Devil (Eph. 4:27). Remember that Satan is specifically called “the accuser of the brethren” (Rev. 12:10). Are you an accuser of the brethren? Also, we are not ignorant of Satan's devices, one of which is criticism!

I would like to end this article with some good advice from an individual whose life is dedicated to helping others. Give the following your consideration:

Getting Along With Critical People
Todd E. Linaman, Ph.D

We all have to deal with critical people at times. You know the type - the person who can spot a flaw from across the room, gives unsolicited advice, frequently complains and passes judgment, is negative and seems impossible to please.

We can all be critical. Every day, we literally critique everything that goes on around us consciously and unconsciously. Sadly, some people tend to verbalize the thoughts many of us have learned to keep to ourselves. When things don't go our way or we're in a bad mood it is easy to become critical. It's true, miserable people prefer miserable company. Critical people actually feel better around others who share the same negative attitudes. Before we spend time learning how to cope with other people's critical traits let's make sure we have our own well under control. Matthew 7:3-5

It can be quite challenging to get along with a critic, especially when we live, work or attend worship services with them. Here are 10 tips to help you get along better with critical people.

1. Understand what motivates people to be critical

Hurting people hurt people. Most critics were criticized themselves as children and did not develop the sense of security and healthy identity that can come from positive nurturing. They tend to have a low opinion of themselves and consequently feel best (although often frustrated) when attempting to achieve the unrealistic standards they set for themselves and others. Critics are often motivated by the need to feel better about themselves by putting other people down. Understanding their motivation can help us to develop empathy and compassion - two qualities that will help you get along with critical people. Colossians 3:12

2. Don't throw the baby out with the bath water

Although critical people often lack diplomacy and tact, they also tend to be able to size up people and situations accurately. You may be tempted to discount what you hear, but listen carefully to what they say because there is often valuable information underneath the sharp edges of the message. Proverbs 15:14

3. Speak the truth in love

It is not easy to confront interpersonal problems, but it is typically the best approach. Be willing to tell the critic in your life how you feel about the way they interact with you. This won't guarantee change, however, by expressing your thoughts and feelings you are in a better position to manage your own emotions and behaviors. Emotional expression will decrease your chances of growing embittered, and consequently, doing or saying something you'll regret. Ephesians 4:15

4. Focus on the truth not on the criticism

If someone puts you down, fight the temptation to dwell on the criticism. If there is something you can learn from the message, do so, but then move on. Instead of dwelling on the negative comment focus on the gifts, talents and strengths Yahweh has given you. Philippians 4:6-8

5. Be careful about what you share with the critical person

It's not always wise to share personal or important information with a critic about yourself or anyone else. Providing such information is asking for trouble because critical people often take things out of context, misinterpret or exaggerate information and place a negative spin on ideas or opinions. Learn how to discern what you should and should not reveal. Proverbs 16:21-23

6. Don't join in on criticizing others

It can be easy to fall into the trap of criticizing others when you're around a critical person. Joining in on the criticism only serves to legitimize the behavior in the mind of the critic, and the transition into gossip is close behind. Today the criticism is about someone else - tomorrow it could be directed toward you. Romans 2:1

7. Limit the amount of time you spend with critical people

It may be very appropriate to limit the amount of time you spend with a critic. This, of course, can be difficult if they happen to be your spouse, parent or boss. However, it may be in your best interest to let the person know that your level of interaction with them will be based, in part, on their willingness to communicate with you in a constructive and appropriate manner. If the critic is your spouse you may benefit from consulting with a professional marriage counselor. Proverbs 14:7

8. Control your response to critical people

Pay close attention to how you respond to criticism. If you tend to react with anger, hurt or intimidation, you will encourage the critical behavior. Critical people are often motivated to behave the way they do because of the response they trigger in others. When you learn to not overreact, the critic will likely move on to someone who will. Proverbs 12:16

9. Try to understand the needs of the critical person

The emotional "gas tank" of a critical person is often very low. Criticism is sometimes an outward expression of an inward need - usually the need to feel worthwhile and significant. It is surprising how a sincere compliment, congratulations or demonstration of care and concern can improve your relationship. People with full emotional tanks are the least likely to mistreat others. Proverbs 25:11

10. Maintain realistic expectations

Critical people don't change overnight. Even if they are making positive progress, they are likely to revert back to their old ways from time to time, especially under stress. Realistic expectations will help guide your interactions and will likely result in a healthy relationship.

If it is possible, as much as in you lies, be at peace with all men
Romans 12:18

Has your criticism hurt our feelings here a truth on the net dot com? Not at all! We are way past that weakness! We understand the criticism of Satan and his agents very well. Before you render any criticism, you should take stock of your own life. What gives you the right to criticize anyone? Are you sin free? Are you perfect? Is your knowledge superior (in your own mind) to all others? Perhaps a real serious personal appraisal by someone who will give you an honest evaluation, is necessary! We do however want to thank you for your critique, it provides for good article material. Everything the critics offered was considered. However, because we do not really know these people (their real names are obscured) their criticism was basically invalid! If you want to offer valid criticism you can write to us here at truth on the net dot com. Contact Us or use the Feedback Forum. Include your real name and valid e-mail address. Thank You!